Maybe I'm just a big wuss, but so far I haven't been able to bring myself to move my baby into her own room yet and I'm running low on viable excuses. I have one final excuse left that relies almost completely on the distractability of my husband.
Here were my list of excuses that have come and gone...
1. When she's sleeping through the night. (Done.)
2. When she can hold her head up on her own. (Done.)
3. When she can get out of her swaddle and doesn't need it anymore. (Done, mostly.)
4. When she cries or yells if she's thrown up to let us know. (Usually.)
5. When she can use her hands to move a blanket out of the way if something is over her face. (Usually.)
And now, the only remaining excuse is that I won't move her until my husband installs the wireless camera in her room so we can monitor her throughout the night on the TV in our room. Laziness and busy schedule, don't fail me now!
You know what it is?
It's not so much the stuff I've listed above anymore, although I do insist on a camera so I can see her... it's those first few minutes in the morning when she rolls her head to look at me from her Nap Nanny in the pack n' play bassinet, sees me, blushes and then smiles that amazing gummy grin. Then I'll say hello and ask her to tell me her "dreamy weamies" ('cause I now make-up nonsense words to confuse poor children trying to learn the language, apparently)and she reaches her hand out for me to hold it and she coo's through a smile as though she's waited all morning to finally tell me something while I lay in bed and hold her hand and listen.
I'm gonna need a few more excuses because the reality is that I'm just not ready to give that up yet.
Maybe I'll hide the camera. That should buy me at least another few weeks.
I realize this puts me squarely in the 'overly attached lunatic' category, but it's pretty comfy there. And it's totally worth it for those first few minutes of every day.
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Well, you're light years ahead of me. I won't put my son in his cradle next to our bed, not to mention in his room! My "excuses":
1. When he sleeps through the night (he still gets up about 3 times each night)
2. When we're able to put him down without his screaming (something we can't really work on when he's colicky)
I bet he'll start sleeping through the night when you start giving him a little rice cereal or something.
We did that with Maya last night and it went really well...went back to her old (good) sleeping habits. She woke up very happy this morning, as usual.
Hang in there! Hopefully once you get through the colicky period, he'll flip the switch and become an easy toddler. LOL
oh, this one makes me smile.. :) luckily I haven't had to come up with excuses yet. Chad doesn't wake up when Jackson does (annoying) and he hasn't determined it to be the reason we don't have sex, so I'm in the clear right now. ;)
Get your excuses ready! Also, the more complex the technology you've arranged to monitor your child, the longer it'll take until you have to move them into another room, unless of course, you two are technologically inclined.
But if not, you might've just bought yourself another month or two!
Just an idea... I'm here to support your neuroses. :)
Eh, it wasn't that bad of a transition for us. He's been in his own room for over a month now. I can see though why you don't want to lose those precious moments together though in the morning. Seems like great mommy and baby time. :)
I love those first morning smiles and coos. Wes wakes me up every morning by talking to me. I would miss that way too much, if we put him in his crib now. It's the very best way to start the day!
You also forgot another very good reason...distractability of the husband in the other way...nothing can ruin a 'mood' like a waking baby. I'm not ready to lose that distraction yet, either.
Suggestion:
You will happily transfer darling daughter to her own room provided husband does night duty for the first seven nights - IN A ROW.
And - no whining, complaining, mumbling, grumbling, etc... allowed.
Get this-- my husband has done overnight duty most nights since she was born! :)
Oh, my husband set one of those up for my BIL! It works through the computer. LMK how yours does so I can decide which route to go. I'm a wuss too and will have Brooklyn in my room until I say otherwise :)
No lunacy would be cosleeping with a 9 yo.
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